This is. And thou art. There is no safety. There is no end. The word must be heard in silence. There must be darkness to see the stars. The dance is always danced above the hollow place, above the terrible abyss.”
-Ursula K. Le Guin, The Farthest Shore
I still feel so far away from myself. It is as if I practiced walking away from myself during my time in Thailand, with a certain level of excitement and a sense of adventure. Now that I’m not there anymore I cannot find me.
What do I even want? The only clear answer I can come up with lately is a relief from this constant pain. I feel as if I know what I need to do to set myself on the road to recovery — meditation, solitude, space, community — but I don’t know how to obtain or practice those things in transition. I cannot, will not, or just do not do them.
I have this urge to just disconnect. A fantasy of vanishing like a ghost. To let go of distractions. Embrace pain. Embrace solitude. To reset, to restart. To return to myself — some sense of self, anyway. Strip off the outer layers and lay bare my essential essence. Cross the miles between me and the heartspace and allow myself to camp on its shores.
I’ve built up this life around me — we all have. This life full of shoulds. Things I can and cannot do. Obligations. Absolutes.
What would happen if I just discarded all of them? Not even discarded, but just stopped holding onto them and let them fall to the floor? To disappear, to vanish from this constructed consensus world where things matter that make no sense and simplicity is trampled by manufactured necessity.
I look around and I see so much misery. I see people escaping their lives and I resent them for it because their escape is a mirror that reflects my own desire to not be present because the present hurts too much, too often. Misanthropy begins to take up space in my heart, an unwelcome guest.
Find love again. Find hope. Acceptance. Joy. Faith in people. In freedom. That the absence of pain is possible.
Let it all fall to the floor.
You owe nothing.
Pain comes to all those who draw breath.
You are not a devil, or a monster. You are human.
Camp on the shores of the heartspace.
And breathe.